Here are eight dating traditions that should be brought back to the youth of today.
Dancing
Not just any kind of dancing, either. What I mean is that we need to bring good old fashioned swing dancing back, instead of twerking on stage as if we were Miley Cyrus herself.
Chivalry
It's the little things that add up to big things. They matter. Things like opening doors for women, insisting upon paying for the meal, and taking the lady home on time should all be brought back to the dating world. Also, walking on the outside of the sidewalk to protect her should be in there, too. Girls of today like to feel empowered in a way that they feel they need to prove they don't need a man's protection. It is just as empowering, however, if not more empowering, to allow a man to be a gentleman and protect her.
Flowers (and chocolate!)
Sometimes, it's the simple things in life that makes someone's day. Ladies love the simple gift of flowers and chocolate. If you can't give them to her yourself, you can send these thoughtful gifts to your lady through delivery. The point is that it is from you, and she will love it. So go ahead and get some roses and Russel Stover's sent to your lovely lady right away.
Putting Effort Into How You Dress
For some people, dressing nicely could mean their best pair of jeans and a nice shirt. For others, it could simply be the old fashioned petticoat and midi dress. For the guys it could be a suit a tie, or a nice pair of jeans and a button down shirt. Either way, whatever you can put effort into wearing, it will show that you care enough about how you present yourself to the other person.
Simple Compliments
Instead of telling someone they look hot or sexy, just say they look beautiful or handsome. It comes across as much more respectful this way.
Saving Yourselves For Marriage
Honestly, sex is way overrated in today's society. It has even less meaning in today's "hook up" culture when two people get together and are more involved physically with each other than they are emotionally. Wait and see if that person is the one you want to be with for the rest of your life before you give yourself to them completely, rather than having sex merely for pleasure.
Writing Poems or Songs
Writing love poems or even love songs is such a romantically old fashioned gesture. Knowing how to play an instrument to go along with it just adds to it all.
Writing Hand-written Letters
There's so much concern today about who texts first. What if it didn't matter? What if you just started writing hand written letters, wether you are a man or a woman, and just simply went back and forth from there? It would be much more simpler and you would think much more thoroughly about what you are going to write before you send it to your lover.
I'm not saying that you have to add all of these gestures into your dating life. I'm saying it would be nice if you would add at least some of them, and it would be a change in pace after all. It would also earn you much respect.
Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. -Jean Anouilh
Writing Hand written letters is surely one thing I desperately want back. I remember how happy I used to get when I used to get hand written cards and letters. Great post
ReplyDeleteSaving yourself for marriage Should be applies to all
ReplyDeleteI totally agree! It's what God wants for us all. Thanks for viewing my post!
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